I have thinking on these lines since last few days now and the more I think the more weird I start feeling about this entire thing. The reason I have started to think this is because of few things that have occured to people whom I know. I will just mention about them in brief here.. but this is how all the thinking started..
A friend of mine used to date this girl in college. It didnt last too long and they decided to call it quits after sometime. After the seperation the girl could not handle the break up well and was seriously sad for quite sometime. Now after 2-3 years later they run across each other and somehow things spark between them and they fall in love again. Now comes the interesting part. The girl’s parents had been pushing her for marriage and she had been reluctant so far about it and now she had added incentive to not get married since she was now in a relationship. So when her family confronts her about the marriage and stuff.. she lets them know about this guy. And then all hell breaks loose. Her parents dont like the guy and she says NO to him. Somehow this time my friend was very much distraught.. cause I think he was really in love with her. But then this leads me to the next question.. who is the girl living for? Herself or her family. She told him she would not be happy with anyone else.. but then she said a NO. I know it would have been tough for her..but then again it ended up heart breaking for both of them.
The other incident happened just a couple of days back. A friend of mine was feeling depressed since last couple of weeks and so yesterday I confronted her. What she told me was shocking.. she recently went threw abortion because her family and her husbands family didnt want to have a child. And I was very much surprised and shocked. I am pretty sure.. that she didnt want to do this.. but then again the circumstances were such that she had to do it. Again it got me thinking.. who is she living for?? Herself or her family. I am probably wrong in thinking this way about this scenario.
People take up jobs in which they have no interest.. their interest is in something all together different.. but yet they do something which does not make them happy. I guess many of them just dont have any options and may be sometimes they dont look for any options. I firmly believe that a person should have a right to live his own life according to his own terms and conditions. But then thats just me.. and I am crazy according to some people and weird according to some. Oh well I am going to end this post here since I have a meeting to attend to.
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True agreed….
WHen I ask myself Whom am I living for??? the prompt asnwer is : for my loved ones…. my parents my friends my BF… because my world is surrounded by them…
Compromise is the word for both the mentioned incidents…
At times we have to compromise for our loved ones…. at the cost of our own happiness…..
but the second story I am a lil unhappy with the lady becoz I am against abortion…. If she herself was unhappy she should have stood for her child…. anyways would like to know the dire circumstances which led to her taking this step……
and regarding u …yes u r a nutcase a weirdo a crazy guy….. but jaisa bhi ho bahut Achche ho >:D<
Sweetie, u r not a wierdo at all. Sometimes I think we shd live life for ourselves, be fucking selfish and do exc wot we want, fuck everyone else.
That mite or mite not be possible always but I think we shd most certainly try. The more we try to live life for others the more unhappy we are and those decisions tend to haunt us.
So far I have managed to do wot I pretty much want in life. The times I have compromised, I didnt like it and did it to please family or friends or to save my ass as case was. Not a good feeling it is but well dealt with it and felt that should never get back to that place in time again!
Its all about choices and living with the consequences of said choices!
Hello Akshay.
You brought up a very good topic. Because such incidences are common these days.
I remember one of the quotation by Khalil Gibran:
Work is love made visible. And if you cannot work with love buy only with distaste it is better that you should leave your work and sit at the gate of the temple and take aims of those who work with joy.
It’s a point to ponder over that: At last for whom are they living for?.
Akshay hey first of all, u have my permission to pass my current post to ur friends 🙂 No probs there!
This post is very interesting. Very well-written. And I totally agree with u. WHO ARE WE LIVING FOR? I mean we often make serious decisions based on our family interests…and trust me Akshay we Indians do that alot. Cos we r incapable of standing up for ourselves. We r so dependent on our families and culture that we forget who we really r and how we should live. It’s sad but it’s a hard in-built trait that’s really gonna take a long time to dissolve.
**Her parents dont like the guy and she says NO to him
She lost a good man. That story is just like how Mr.Darcy didn’t wanna see me anymore cos his sis and dad didn’t like the fact that we were the same age!
Keshi.