Who are we living for?

I have thinking on these lines since last few days now and the more I think the more weird I start feeling about this entire thing. The reason I have started to think this is because of few things that have occured to people whom I know. I will just mention about them in brief here.. but this is how all the thinking started..

A friend of mine used to date this girl in college. It didnt last too long and they decided to call it quits after sometime. After the seperation the girl could not handle the break up well and was seriously sad for quite sometime. Now after 2-3 years later they run across each other and somehow things spark between them and they fall in love again. Now comes the interesting part. The girl’s parents had been pushing her for marriage and she had been reluctant so far about it and now she had added incentive to not get married since she was now in a relationship. So when her family confronts her about the marriage and stuff.. she lets them know about this guy. And then all hell breaks loose. Her parents dont like the guy and she says NO to him. Somehow this time my friend was very much distraught.. cause I think he was really in love with her. But then this leads me to the next question.. who is the girl living for? Herself or her family. She told him she would not be happy with anyone else.. but then she said a NO. I know it would have been tough for her..but then again it ended up heart breaking for both of them.

The other incident happened just a couple of days back. A friend of mine was feeling depressed since last couple of weeks and so yesterday I confronted her. What she told me was shocking.. she recently went threw abortion because her family and her husbands family didnt want to have a child. And I was very much surprised and shocked. I am pretty sure.. that she didnt want to do this.. but then again the circumstances were such that she had to do it. Again it got me thinking.. who is she living for?? Herself or her family. I am probably wrong in thinking this way about this scenario.

People take up jobs in which they have no interest.. their interest is in something all together different.. but yet they do something which does not make them happy. I guess many of them just dont have any options and may be sometimes they dont look for any options. I firmly believe that a person should have a right to live his own life according to his own terms and conditions. But then thats just me.. and I am crazy according to some people and weird according to some. Oh well I am going to end this post here since I have a meeting to attend to.